If you’re a parent (and perhaps even if you’re not), you know, every child is different. Some need structure, others thrive on spontaneity. Some require the patience of a Saint while others can be maddeningly independent. The same is true of book babies and writing career children. Inevitably, reward, motivation and discipline will vary depending on the child–and the parent.
In order to create an environment that you individual book baby will thrive and grow, first we as parents must honestly evaluate what works and doesn’t work for our writing career. In addition, we need to evaluate our expectations as parents and whether or not those sights we’re setting on are realistic in relationship to our child.
Some books take years to write, revise, and encourage along. Others books might sprint to the finish line so fast that we as parents can hardly keep up with them. Both are perfectly okay.
But when we as parents press our children into roles they simply don’t fit in, our and their progress can be completely derailed.
To help create a mutually productive and nurturing writing parent environment, consider these factors:
- When it comes to writing, are you a pantser or a plotter?
- When it comes to goals and trying new things, are you a tortoise or a hare?
- Do you find having a set schedule, in a specific environment is the only thing that awakens your muse or can you write anytime, anywhere?
- How are you rewarding yourself and your baby after a good, productive day? Is that reward one that suits your parenting and your book baby’s nature?
- How are you disciplining your book baby? Are you being too harsh? Are you inconsistent with time outs? How do you feel when you use your chosen discipline method and is it correcting the behavior?
Now, after considering all of these factors, ask yourself, what can you do to make your day with your book baby more fun? Not better, not faster, not more successful. More fun. After all, isn’t that why we decided to become book baby parents in the first place? Good, now go have some!